A Beginner’s Guide to Anal Toys

Anal play is popular with people of every gender, and starting well comes down to three things: the right shape, plenty of lube and taking your time.

Choose toys made for anal use

Only use toys that are designed for anal play. They have a flared base or a handle so they can’t slip too far, and the product description will say they’re intended for anal use.

Start small

Begin with the smallest size in a range and work up only if you want to. Slim, tapered plugs and beads are the most common starting points.

Prostate massagers have a curve designed to reach the prostate. They are a good next step for people with a prostate once smaller toys feel comfortable.

Lube, and lots of it

The body doesn’t self-lubricate here, so use a generous amount and reapply. A thicker water-based lube is compatible with every toy material.

Go at your own pace

Relax, breathe and stop if anything hurts. Pain is a signal to slow down, not to push through.